I would define myself, in terms of Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics to be quite simply a man. As we all strive to be “good” men, and strive for an immutable happiness, I would be on my way to that state.
Like all people, I have good and bad qualities. Perhaps I procrastinate too much, and have trouble focusing on things. I am not always nice to others, and can be prone to selfishness. However, the negative alone do not define me. I will try to be nice to others when I can, I am generous with my money, if I see someone in need I will try my best to help them.
In terms of Aristotle’s virtues, I believe that I am truthful, and monogamous. I value trust and the truth highly in all that I do, and try to keep those above all others. I try to be generous, courageous, and all around virtuous according to Aristotle. However, I do not believe anyone to be truly virtuous at all times in all areas. People are not perfect, and though I try to uphold proper and well virtues, I may falter at times in that.
As stated in a previous post, I believe the goal of life is love. In that, my goal in life is to live a life of love. Love for the people that I care about, for my wife and for my family, for my friends as well. I may not always find happiness in the times that maybe I want to go see a movie or have dinner at home, while my wife wants to go to her parents’ house. However, that is not a bad thing. A life of love is not always being “happy”, but it is being content.
Happiness is fleeting and an emotion, whereas love is an action. I will enjoy the times I am happy, but strive for a life of love and being content even in the times I am not happy.
“Amongst the vending machines and year-old magazines in a place where we only say goodbye
It stung like a violent wind that our memories depend on a faulty camera in our minds
But I knew that you were a truth I would rather lose than to have never lain beside at all
And I looked around at all the eyes on the ground as the TV entertained itself
‘Cause there’s no comfort in the waiting room
Just nervous pacers bracing for bad news
And then the nurse comes round and everyone will lift their heads
But I’m thinking of what Sarah said that “Love is watching someone die”
So who’s going to watch you die?..”
These are lyrics from a song “What Sarah Said” by the band Death Cab for Cutie. It is a sad song about being in the hospital with a loved one who is passing away. I chose it because it illustrates my belief that a “good” and full life is not always one that strives for happiness but for love. Love is not always happy, but in the lyrics “I knew you were a truth I would rather lose than to have never lain beside at all”, the artist is implying that it is better to have loved and lost than to have never have loved at all, even if that love is causing pain in the loss. That love for one another is the true goal of living and having a full and complete life.